Tell me about yourself.  What was it like for you as a child?  Where did you grow up?  Did you stay in one place or did you move?  Did you move often? How many military moves have you made?  Where have you been stationed?  Which was your favorite place and why?  Where didn’t you like […]

Tell me about your upbringing? As parents, what did your dad and mom do well? What do you wish they had done differently? What parenting techniques did your parents use that were helpful for you? Tell me about your children. What one word would you use to describe each of your children? How does the […]

Tell me about your marriage.  How long have you been married?  How did you meet? On a scale from 1-10, with 10 being AWESOME, how satisfied were you with your marriage prior to deployment?  How do you think your spouse would answer that question? When you are together, how well do you and your spouse […]

For those whose spouses are deployed: Tell me about yourself and your marriage.  How long have you been married and (on a scale from 1-10, 10 being AWESOME) how would you describe your relationship? Is this a first marriage for you both? Number and ages of your children? How long has your spouse been deployed? […]

Tell me about yourself. How did you and your spouse meet? How long have you been together? Is this his/her first deployment? How often have you been separated due to military obligations? How were those separations for you? Your spouse? Your children? How is everyone doing, knowing your spouse will soon be leaving? What about […]

What ages are your children and how would you assess them spiritually right now? What have they been learning lately? How do their lives reflect what they say they believe? How often do you pray for/with your children? In what setting? How involved are you in a local church where your children can grow? In […]

Could you tell me how you are currently disciplining your children? What struggles do you face on a regular basis? Are you and your spouse in agreement on how to discipline your children?  If not, can you tell me about your differences? Is the goal of your discipline to change behavior or the heart of […]

What can you tell me about how you’ve gotten to this point in your marriage? What steps have been taking so far to reconcile?  What have been the results of those efforts? Do you have children?  Tell me about how they are being affected right now by the state of your marriage? What have you […]

How long has it been since your marriage ended?  How did it end (i.e. who filed for divorce, was it mutual, etc.)? What would you say were the things that led to your divorce?  Have you taken time to prayerfully examine your part in that? What can you tell me about how you got to […]

Looking back, why did you originally get married?  What did you think it was going to be like? Would you mind telling me a little about what has led you to the point of seeking a divorce? Any big milestone events, or more a series of small steps? What are you most hoping to accomplish or avoid […]