Avoid blaming. Mentees will often want to blame themselves or others for problems. Your part as a mentor is not to resolve those questions, but to help mentees discover where they can change by God’s grace without condemnation.

This tip is a good one to remember when mentoring someone who is considering divorce or is in the process of divorce.  An effective mentor should always be compassionate and understanding, but we should also avoid placing blame on the spouse we have limited knowledge about.  Our role is to come alongside our mentees and encourage them to look to God for solutions other than divorce.

And if they are reeling from an unwanted divorce or placing blame on themselves for allowing it to happen, we can encourage them that God loves them and gives abundant grace to the brokenhearted.