Successful mentors ask good questions in order to have a clearer understanding of the situation. Not all need to be asked at once, but here are some examples:
- How did you first meet this other person? Were you ever close to him/her in the past, before you were married?
- Do you ever hide this relationship from your spouse?
- Do you confide things to this person about your marriage that would make your spouse feel uncomfortable?
- Do you and this other person exchange flirtatious humor?