Reference Helps

Successful mentors ask good questions in order to have a clearer understanding of the situation.  Not all need to be asked at once, but here are some examples:

  • How did you first meet this other person?  Were you ever close to him/her in the past, before you were married? 
  • Do you ever hide this relationship from your spouse?
  • Do you confide things to this person about your marriage that would make your spouse feel uncomfortable?
  • Do you and this other person exchange flirtatious humor?