How do the two of you honor your marriage by making time for one another?
What are the biggest obstacles right now in the two of you being close?
Is your schedule too full to pursue marital oneness like you want? What’s one immediate change you could make, even if it's small?
The bible describles marriage as a process of two becoming one? In what ways does your marriage reflect that principle? In what ways does it not?
If you and your spouse were to truly "become one," what would need to change?
What practical things are you doing to build oneness together?
Are there some areas in your life that are just too sensitive for you to share with your spouse right now? Areas where it's just easier to keep things separate?
Do you and your spouse confess sin quickly and forgive one another easily? Tell me about the last time you did that?
Are there any areas that you can think of where confession and forgiveness are needed?
In what ways do you honor your spouse’s parents as your own? Or is that a source of division between you?
What is one small step you can take today to move toward oneness with your spouse?
How can I be an encouragement to you today?
How would your marriage be different if both of you chose to focus on what is good and right rather than what is bad and wrong? (Philippians 4:8; Ephesians 4:29-32)
How can you help your spouse realize who he or she is in Christ?
Do you love your spouse in a way that casts out fear of rejection? (1 John 4:18)
Do you have an understanding of how your spouse’s background is affecting his or her self-image?
Are there things in the past that you are holding over your spouse’s head now? Is it safe for your spouse to admit a mistake?
What can you do to help make your marriage a safe place to admit failure? Would you say that your home is a place of high emotional control? Are you aware of how destructive that is to a marriage?
Is there any area where you need to seek forgiveness in the way you have treated your spouse?
How would you describe the tone of your relationship? Negative and critical? Apathetic?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?
Have you taken time lately to share your true feelings with your spouse?
Is there an area of bitterness from the past you’ve been harboring which is causing the isolation? Would you consider voicing that and giving your spouse another opportunity to seek forgiveness?
Are you waiting for your spouse to move toward you or are you willing to move toward him/her?
Would you say your marriage is one of openness and honesty, or are there things that are hidden and kept secret? Can you elaborate?
Can you surrender to God’s plan even if it means you will need to take responsibility and confess first?
Is your marriage full of speech that is honoring, or is there much criticism? Could you describe what that looks/feels like?
Are you connected to any other couples who can hold you accountable for marital growth?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?
