be a better wife
  • Great job reaching out for help in building oneness in your marriage.  That is huge!
  • Read any of the helpful Scriptures listed in this guide and let’s discuss.
  • Read one of the helpful articles listed in this guide and let’s discuss.
  • Remember that you are not alone in needing help.  We all need to invest more time and energy into our marriages.
  • Remember that oneness comes from thinking together, not from thinking alike—unity, not unanimity.
  • Realize that differences can actually foster oneness instead of coming between you.  It’s all in how you approach those differences–trying to change one another or to accept and balance one another.
  • Please realize that God will often use your spouse to make you more like Jesus Christ.
  • Remember that God not only has a plan for oneness in your marriage, but He provides the power to make it happen.
  • Consider attending a FamilyLife Weekend to Remember marriage getaway.
  • Pray every day together, even if it’s just for a moment or two.
  • Remember that oneness reflects God’s character and the Trinity (John 17:22).
  • Refuse to even consider divorce as an option.
  • Watch out for argument triggers (James 1:19).  Become a student of when/where those happen, make a list of them, and be ready for them.
  • Consider a short TV fast, maybe even 48 hours, to re-establish meaningful connection with your spouse (Ephesians 5:16).
  • Remember that information alone does not lead to life change … lasting life change begins as you apply what you learn.
  • Get involved in a local, bible-believing church for spiritual growth and accountability.
  • Make a “wish list” of 3 things you desire in your relationship with your spouse.
    Take turns sharing your “I wish” statements with your partner and describe how
    you would feel if your wish came true.
  • Think of something (hobby, sport, recreational activity) you would like to pursue together.
  • Talk about one of your favorite dates.  What was it about that date that made it so memorable? Is this something you could do again?