Confess where you have fallen short and ask God for the strength to change anything He wants changed
Offer unconditional love to your wife by putting her needs before your own.
Thank God that He did not wait for us to stop sinning before He loved us—we would be in tough shape if He did
Take the initiative to lovingly lead (and serve) and trust God to teach your wife to fill her godly role over time
Look to Jesus for guidance every day since He was the perfect model of servant leadership
You don’t have to be perfect before you start to lead your wife. In fact, you do not really have to qualify for the role because God has given it to you like it or not!
Start by first being submissive to God and then taking initiative to lead your wife and family
Find one or two other husbands and meet with them regularly for mutual accountability and shared wisdom
Set your goal to love your wife as Christ loved the church
You should realize that although you will never lead perfectly, God will honor your efforts and is faithful to forgive times of failure
Discuss with your spouse how you see your roles divided. Then discuss how you each feel about that.
Talk about any changes you would like to make in your current roles.
