In what ways do you find yourself adapting to avoid your spouse’s anger (e.g. apologizing for things not your fault, withholding your opinion out of fear)?
When you try to express your true feelings or opinions, is that a safe thing to do or does your spouse’s anger stifle such communication?
Are you willing to learn to surrender to God in times of frustration and anger? Can we discuss that and begin praying in that direction?
I believe true peace in your soul is a result of a redeemed relationship with Jesus Christ. Would you like to discuss that with me?
What unresolved issues might be between you that are making matters worse?
The Bible says that angry fighting is often the result of selfish desires (James 4:1-3). How have you found that to be true in your marriage?
Are you keeping a record of wrongs suffered? (1 Corinthians 13:5)
Do you ever feel the need to seek physical safety for yourself or your children because of outbusts of anger? Tell me about those times.
Have you sought the help of a wise pastor or Christian counselor?
