You should be commended for seeking wisdom on how to deal with anger in a godly way.
Read any of the online articles listed in this guide. Read the articles first for yourself and choose one or two that seem to apply to your situation. Then let’s discuss this material together.
Read any of the scriptures of help and hope in this guide and let’s discuss.
Seek safety if the anger is potentially causing physical danger to you or your children.
Remember that anger itself is not necessarily wrong. It can be an indication that something is wrong. How you handle the anger is the key.
Put your thoughts down on paper if it helps diffuse the strong emotions involved.
When you try to discuss delicate issues with your spouse, remember that timing is often as important as words.
Confide in your pastor or a Christian counselor in your area if you need biblical guidance, local resources, or professional help.
Seek to understand the underlying issues or “idols of the heart” that are causing the outbursts of anger (James 4:1-2). What unmet, selfish desires are there?
Search your heart for any bitterness that is there, confess it, and release it to God
Remember that you cannot change your spouse, only God can do that
Remember that while you cannot single-handedly bring healing to your marriage, if you will begin to change then God can bring your spouse toward you
Set healthy boundaries and learn constructive ways to express yourself
Be patient because change takes time… but it can happen with God’s power.
Seek accountability from outside sources if necessary.
Be courageous and lovingly confront areas that do not reflect God’s design for your marriage.
