• Great job reaching out for wisdom in how to communicate better!
  • Read any of the online articles listed in this guide.  Read the articles first for yourself and choose one or two that seem to apply to your situation. Then let’s discuss this material together.
  • Read any of the scriptures of help and hope in this guide and let’s discuss.
  • Please know that you are not alone, communication problems are the number one cause of marital frustration for many couples.
  • Communication is a skill that can be learned and improved over time, so keep at it.
  • Try and carve out regular time to focus on communication with your spouse.
  • Remove distractions as much as possible (e.g. TV, internet, cell phone, kids)
  • Consider attending a FamilyLife Weekend to Remember marriage conference
  • Plan a date night very soon.
  • Pray together every day… this habit invites God’s voice into your relationship and makes it a three-person conversation.
  • Take the initiative to re-open communication despite any differences… risk being vulnerable.
  • Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
  • Remember that you cannot control your spouse, only God can do that.
  • Remember that non‐verbal communication is often more important than verbal.
  • The goal is not just to speak the right words but to communicate the right heart
  • That timing is vital when approaching your spouse! (Proverbs 27:14)
  • Make a “wish list” of 3 things you desire in your relationship with your spouse.
    Take turns sharing your “I wish” statements with your partner and describe how
    you would feel if your wish came true.