Has resolving conflict been a problem in your marriage from the start? If not, when did it start becoming a problem? What were things like before? What has changed?
What are the most common arguments in your marriage? How long have you been arguing about those particular issues?
What have you learned about your spouse from your most common conflicts? Any helpful discoveries? Any difficult ones?
Are you ever able to really resolve a conflict—reach a point where you have a workable solution you can both live with?
Where do most of your conflicts occur (car, kitchen, bedroom)?
When do most of your conflicts occur (a particular time of day, weekends, weeknights, end of the month, holidays, etc.)?
If you have children, how does that affect your conflicts?
Do you relate to any of these common habits during conflict?
Win by overpowering the other
Yield in order to keep peace
Withdraw to avoid the conflict
Compromise by bargaining
Resolve through consideration of all sides of the issue
