Do you remember what initially started the conflict?
Ask yourself, “What are my real motives in this conflict?”
Do your words encourage others to be more or less honest with you?
Are you attempting to control this other person? How do you think they would answer that question about you?
Are you willing to let go of the importance of being “right” in this?
What desire are you preoccupied with to the point of being unhealthy (e.g. it’s the first thing on your mind in the morning and the last thing on your mind at night)?
Are you willing to do the right thing in this conflict even if it means sacrificing something important to you personally?
When a certain desire is not being met, do you exhibit frustration, bitterness, anger, or depression? Have you examined before God what is causing that to rise up within you? (James 4:1-2)
What is it that you desire so much that you’re willing to justify hurting or disappointing others in order to have it?
Do your words reflect a teachable attitude, or defensiveness? How would your spouse answer that about you?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?
