Encourage your mentee to seek wise counsel from their pastor or a local Christian counselor
Encourage them to seek couples counseling if their spouse is willing
Encourage your mentee to count the full cost of divorce—legal, financial, emotional, kids. Offer to help them think through those issues by listening to and discussing the Before Your Divorce FamilyLife Today broadcast.
Encourage them to pray daily for God to be working in their own heart and in the heart of their spouse. Encourage them to use the Lifting My Wife and Lifting My Husband prayer cards to guide them. Encourage praying with their spouse if possible.
Encourage them to examine themselves in view of God’s Word to see if there is more they can do to reach out to their spouse one more time.
Encourage husbands to connect with other men in a Men’s Fraternity group for accountability and support
Encourage both husbands and wives to understand their biblical roles and examine how they are fulfilling those
When anger or bitterness persists, offer to help them through the forgiveness process
Offer them comfort for the evils they have suffered and mercy for the sins they have committed
Encourage them through hope and help scriptures
Encourage them in every way to put their full trust in God and to give their burdens to Him daily
Encourage them to read some of the Online Helps contained within this Mentor Guide and discuss these with you
If they have children, encourage them to talk openly and often with them about how the kids are processing what is happening around them. When it seems appropriate, encourage them to seek biblical counseling for the kids as well, perhaps through DivorceCare for Kids.
Encourage your mentee to get involved in a local, bible‐believing church for spiritual growth and accountability.