Looking back, why did you originally get married? What did you think it was going to be like?
Would you mind telling me a little about what has led you to the point of seeking a divorce? Any big milestone events, or more a series of small steps?
What are you most hoping to accomplish or avoid by seeking a divorce?
What steps have you taken before to restore your marriage? Why do you think those steps were unsuccessful?
What do you believe God wants? Do you still believe He is able to do the impossible?
As you’ve been considering divorce, who outside your marriage has influenced your decision? What have they been saying?
How far has the divorce process advanced?
If you don’t mind me asking, are either you or your spouse involved in another relationship outside the marriage?
Have you considered the full impact on your children if you go through with this divorce? Could we discuss that together?
Looking ahead, have you ever thought about how you will feel if/when another person becomes your child’s stepparent?
Would you be open to pushing the "pause button" on the divorce and giving God one last chance to restore your marriage?
I believe that the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with Jesus Christ. Can you tell me about that part of your life and how it’s impacting your decisions?
What are the major areas of disagreement or conflict in your marriage? What steps have you take to resolve those?
Have you counted the real costs of divorce—legal, financial, emotional, kids? I’d love to help you think through those issues if you would you be willing to take some time to do that. (see “Before Your Divorce” broadcast)
What are the major things you need to ask your spouse forgiveness for? Are you willing to do that?
What actions do you feel that your spouse needs to ask your forgiveness for? Have they shown a willingness to do that?
What do you consider to be the major barriers to reconciliation in your marriage? What needs to happen to begin to tear down those barriers? Are you open to working through those even if it means a significant time commitment?
How are your finances? Is financial stress a contributing factor in your marriage being in trouble? How so?
Are you involved in another relationship? Are you willing to give that up to restore your marriage? Why or why not?
