Seek wise counsel from your pastor or a local Christian counselor
Consider couple counseling if your spouse is willing
Take time out to count the full cost of divorce—legal, financial, emotional, kids. Think through those issues by listening to and discussing the “
Before Your Divorce” broadcast with your spouse or a trusted mentor. Ask your spouse to attend a
Weekend To Remember getaway together, even if as
a last resort Examine yourself in view of God’s Word to see if there is a way you can reach out to your spouse one more time
If you are the husband, consider connecting with other men in a
Men’s Fraternity group for accountability and support Take a look at the biblical roles of a
husband and a wife and consider how those are being fulfilled in your relationship. When anger or bitterness persists, be willing to forgive. Good marriages are often the story of two great forgivers.
Take some time to meditate on the hope and help scriptures.
Fully trust in God and
give your burdens to Him daily. Read some of the Helpful Articles or even go through the
Hope, Help and Healing study with your mentor. Talk openly and often with your spouse and/or your mentor about how your children are processing what is happening around them. You may want to seek biblical counseling for the kids as well.
Be involved in a local, Bible-believing church for spiritual growth and accountability.
Determine how you can apply
Romans 12:18 to your life right now, determining to live at peace with your spouse “as far as it depends on you.”