What can you tell me about how you’ve gotten to this point in your marriage?
What steps have been taking so far to reconcile? What have been the results of those efforts?
Do you have children? Tell me about how they are being affected right now by the state of your marriage?
What have you learned about yourself from your most common conflicts? Any helpful discoveries? Any difficult ones?
Do you relate to any of these common habits during conflict?
- Win by overpowering the other
- Yield in order to keep peace
- Withdraw to avoid the conflict
- Compromise by bargaining
- Resolve through consideration of all sides of the issue
What do you believe God wants right now from you?
As you think about your marriage, what would you say are the biggest mistakes that you’ve personally made?
Are you willing to reconcile, even if the process takes a while? Is your spouse?
What is one small step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you right now to get started?
How can I help and encourage you right now?
Are you aware of the effects of unforgiveness? Is there an area of unforgiveness that is blocking reconciliation?
Have you repented of any wrongdoing, however small, and asked for forgiveness?
Have you sought the help of a pastor or Christian counselor?
Do you have children? If so, have you considered how their lives will be impacted if you don’t reconcile the marriage?
Has one spouse been unfaithful and has the affair ended? What steps have been taken to recover from this affair?
What is one thing you can do today to move back toward your spouse?
Do you still believe that God can transform your marriage through the power of His Holy Spirit? (Ephesians 3:20-21)
Do you pray with your spouse every day? Are you willing to start? Do you pray for your spouse every day?
I believe that the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with Jesus Christ. Can you tell me about that?
