• You are to be commended for your willingness to seek reconciliation in your marriage.  Ask God to continue giving you a willing heart.
  • Rather than considering divorce, choose to believe that God can still change hearts and your marriage. Nothing is impossible with God.
  • Be involved in a local, Bible-believing church for spiritual growth and accountability.
  • Remember the goal in marriage is not to be conflict-free, but to handle conflict correctly when it occurs. Reflect back on how you have responded to conflict and how you may do it differently in the future.
  • Reconciliation may take a while, but the process glorifies God and is worth it!
  • Read Six Steps for Resolving Conflict in Marriage and discuss it with your
    spouse and/or a mentor.
  • Keep in mind that the most successful marriages are those where forgiveness is often sought and richly given. Pray about areas where you may need to seek or grant forgiveness.
  • Seek the help of a pastor or Christian counselor if the issues seem too big
    and overwhelming.
  • The efforts of only one partner can lead to reconciliation in a marriage.  Be the first one at the foot of the cross, willing to confess your contribution to the conflict.
  • Consider attending a FamilyLife Weekend to Remember marriage conference
  • Invite God into your marriage by praying together—even for just a few minutes each day.
  • You cannot control your spouse’s actions, only your reactions. Contemplate what a godly response would be in this situation.
  • Remember that your spouse is not the enemy.
  • Only God can produce change in your spouse
  • Avoiding any conflicts will not make lasting peace and could prolong the problems.  Determine whether this is a conflict worth bringing up or if it needs to be overlooked for long-term benefit.
  • Make a “wish list” of 3 things you desire in your relationship with your spouse.
    Take turns sharing your “I wish” statements with your partner and describe how
    you would feel if your wish came true.
  • Name one thing that you most enjoyed about your relationship today and one thing you were dissatisfied with in your relationship today.  Discuss these with
    your spouse and determine if either of these represents patterns you see
    repeated often.
  • Think of something (hobby, sport, recreational activity) you would like to pursue together.
  • Talk about one of your favorite dates.  What was it about that date that made it so memorable? Is this something you could do again?