How long has emotional control been a part of this relationship? Has it always been like this? If not, what changed?
Who do you believe God created you to be? Do you see yourself moving in that direction? Why or why not?
Many people who are controlling others or who allow others to control them experienced a controlling relationship in their developmental years, so it feels normal to them. What do you understand about yours or your spouse’s past that may be contributing to your behavior patterns? Are you willing to turn away from those patterns and seek God’s way in the future?
God does not intend for any person to control another person or to be controlled. Will you commit to working toward changing your part of this controlling relationship—refusing to control or refusing to be controlled?
Which of these statements best reflects your position in dealing with a problem: “We can work through this together” or “Peace at all costs.” On what basis did you decide?
What is your understanding about the role of both husband and wife in a marriage? Have you ever learned what the Bible says about those roles? How important is that to you? Can we explore a little of what the Bible says together?
What is your understanding of the biblical idea of “submission?” What is your spouse’s understanding?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?
