Write your thoughts down on paper to help diffuse the strong emotions involved.
List some of the things you have learned about how to truly forgive and to seek forgiveness. Discuss this list with your spouse and see if he/she has some input as well.
Compromise can be a way of saying, “I love you.” Think of one way you could express your love by compromising today.
There may be ways you are allowing others to control you without being accountable. Pray for God to reveal those areas to you and show you how to handle them.
Be willing to confide in a pastor or counselor in your area who can lead you to biblical principles and if necessary, to local resources or professional help.
Seek to understand the biblical role of a husband and a wife in marriage.
Search your heart for any bitterness that is there, confess it, and release
it to God.
Pray for your mate.
Don’t give into the temptation to give your spouse the silent treatment.
Think about some of your recent conversations and ask yourself if they have been hindering or healing for your relationship.
Remember that you cannot change your spouse, only God can do that.
While you cannot single-handedly bring healing to your marriage, think about how you can begin to get healthier and invite your spouse into healthy change together.
If you feel like you are being controlled, establish some healthy boundaries and to learn constructive ways to express yourself.
Be patient. Change takes a lot of time, but it can happen.
Think of one area of change you can make at this time—many small steps will lead to more permanent change.
Look for a way that you can extend grace toward the other person in this relationship today.
