Has it always felt lonely in your marriage? Can you tell me about a time when you felt close? What was different then?
Have you taken time lately to share your true feelings with your spouse? Are you developing friendships with other couples?
Are you in a good local church?
Do you pray with your spouse every day?
What one simple thing could you personally do to increase the amount of time you as a couple spend together?
In what ways do you see your spouse trying to connect with you—even if it isn’t exactly what you want?
Do you and your spouse participate in some sport, hobby, or other shared activity together?
Do you cast your cares on God during times of extreme loneliness? (I Peter 5:7)
Do you ever try to “speak the truth in love” to your spouse (Ephesians 4:15) about your feelings of loneliness? How does that conversation usually turn out?
What do you believe captures your spouse’s attention instead of you?
Are you connected to any other couples who can hold you accountable for growing in this area of marriage?
Is there an area of bitterness from anything you are harboring which is causing the isolation?
Would you consider voicing your concerns and giving your spouse another opportunity to seek forgiveness?
Do you think your spouse is harboring bitterness for something you may have done? Are you open to seeking forgiveness?
How do you think God wants you to handle bitterness or anger in marriage?
Can you surrender to God’s plan even if it means you will need to take responsibility and confess first?
What do you think could bring joy and completeness in your life even if your spouse refuses to draw near to you for now?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?
