Tell me about you and your spouse. How did you meet, why did you decide to marry, what were the early years like?
How has your spouse changed over the years of your marriage? How have you changed? What discoveries have you made?
When did you first notice that you and/or your spouse were struggling in the marriage? What was that like? What seemed to trigger that change?
What attempts have you as a couple made to improve things? What have you done to improve yourself as a marriage partner? What have been the results of those efforts?
How did your spouse go about leaving? Did your spouse leave your home or did you ask him/her to leave? Did you leave or did your spouse ask you to leave?
Is this the first time you and your spouse have separated? If not tell me about the other separations: when, how long, why, etc.
If you separated and reunited in the past, what brought you back together? Do you think this time is different? Why?
What do you think would need to happen to bring you and your spouse to the point of at least working toward reconciliation?
