Instead of praying “Lord, bring my spouse back to me,” try praying, “Lord, bring my spouse back to You.”
Stay involved in a local, Bible‐believing church for spiritual growth and accountability despite the temptation to avoid facing people during this difficult time.
Meet with your pastor for guidance or seek out a Christian counselor. This can be helpful and encouraging as you gain another’s perspective on your situation. FamilyLife provides lists of counseling organizations and counselors (link coming soon).
Pray daily for God to be working in your own heart and in the heart of your spouse.
If your spouse is totally unrepentant with no interest in returning to your marriage, acknowledge the extreme level of pain you feel, but also remember that it is temporary. In God you can find the strength you need to face your pain and life without your spouse.
Examine your heart to be sure you are speaking truth. Sometimes love must risk peace for the sake of truth.