“Peter indicated that a wife’s respectful behavior can win a disobedient man to God! He said it quite explicitly in I Peter 3:1‐2. And of course, if respectful behavior can win a disobedient husband to God, then it can also win that same husband back to his wife. That’s because unconditional respect ignites something deep within the spirit of a husband ... As a woman, you know how hard it is for a wife to resist the unconditional love of a man. Her nature is designed to respond. What is left untaught today is that this is how husbands respond to unconditional respect.”

“After reading a few eye‐opening books on the subject of gender differences and conducting my own casual research, I discovered many of the conflicts in marriages aren’t necessarily caused by spiritual differences. Rather, they’re caused by simple gender differences. And if you’re unaware of those differences, you may inadvertently cause, or at least aggravate, your spiritual differences.”

“Plain and simple, your husband’s relationship with the Lord isn’t dependent on you. While God may use you in great ways as an influence, ultimately it’s the Holy Spirit’s job to change hearts.”

“More than any other emotion, loneliness tops the lists of most women in spiritually unequal marriages.”

“If you are married to a spouse who does not share your spiritual values and commitment to Christ, we recommend that you ask if he or she would mind if you led in prayer together each day—even if your spouse does not pray … If your spouse allows you to pray out loud, use this time as an opportunity to bless, encourage, and lift up his or her needs. Do not use this prayer time to preach, instruct, or correct your spouse. If your spouse will not allow you to pray out loud, then find a time each day when you can pray silently.”

"The call is for a wife to carry herself with dignity, showing honor to her husband because she is an honorable woman. Though her husband may not be respectable, God is calling her to show unconditional respect in her pursuit to obey God. She does this in obedience to the command of God in Ephesians 5:33, not because her husband deserves it."

“Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it is a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t 'feel respectful' is evidence of maturity, not hypocrisy.”

“Let go of as many expectations as possible. The changes you try to make happen in your husband, or that your husband tries to make in himself to please you, are doomed to failure and will bring disappointment for you both. Instead, ask God to make any necessary changes ... Accept your husband the way he is and pray for him to grow ... Your greatest expectations must be from God, not from your husband.”

“If your partner wants you to participate in something unethical or illegal, or wants you to do something that violates your conscience or Christian commitment, then it’s appropriate to explain why you can’t participate. When this happens, don’t use an accusatory tone that demeans your spouse. Instead, talk about your own feelings and why participation would make you feel uncomfortable, scared, or violated.”

“Our thoughts determine our attitudes, which determine our actions. If I think my husband is a jerk, I’ll treat him like a jerk. But if I think about how he’s made in God’s image, then I’ll treat him differently.”

“Women hold an incredible power in the way we communicate with our men (both husbands and sons) to build them up or to tear them down, to encourage or to exasperate.”

“Many Christian wives do not realize that they have two powerful ‘weapons’ available to them that are far more effective than nagging, whining, or preaching. The first weapon is a godly life, which God often uses in a man’s life to create conviction and spiritual hunger (1 Peter 3:1‐4) … and the second is prayer.”

"When a wife is preoccupied with trying to correct her husband’s faults and flaws, she is taking responsibility God never intended her to have, and she will likely end up frustrated and resentful toward her husband and perhaps even toward God. She may also limit God from doing what He wants to do in changing her husband.”

“There is no man on the face of this earth who can satisfy the deepest longings of a woman’s heart‐‐God has made us in such a way that we can never be truly satisfied with anything or anyone less than Himself (Psalm 16:11; 34:8‐10).”