• Emerson Eggerichs, Motivating Your Man God’s Way, p. 35
    “Peter indicated that a wife’s respectful behavior can win a disobedient man to God! He said it quite explicitly in I Peter 3:1‐2. And of course, if respectful behavior can win a disobedient husband to God, then it can also win that same husband back to his wife. That’s because unconditional respect ignites something deep within the spirit of a husband ... As a woman, you know how hard it is for a wife to resist the unconditional love of a man. Her nature is designed to respond. What is left untaught today is that this is how husbands respond to unconditional respect.”
  • Nancy Kennedy, When He Doesn’t Believe, p. 51
    “After reading a few eye‐opening books on the subject of gender differences and conducting my own casual research, I discovered many of the conflicts in marriages aren’t necessarily caused by spiritual differences. Rather, they’re caused by simple gender differences. And if you’re unaware of those differences, you may inadvertently cause, or at least aggravate, your spiritual differences.”
  • Nancy Kennedy, When He Doesn’t Believe, p. 6
    “Plain and simple, your husband’s relationship with the Lord isn’t dependent on you. While God may use you in great ways as an influence, ultimately it’s the Holy Spirit’s job to change hearts.”
  • Nancy Kennedy, When He Doesn’t Believe, p. 37
    “More than any other emotion, loneliness tops the lists of most women in spiritually unequal marriages.”
  • Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Two Hearts Praying As One, p. 85
    “If you are married to a spouse who does not share your spiritual values and commitment to Christ, we recommend that you ask if he or she would mind if you led in prayer together each day—even if your spouse does not pray … If your spouse allows you to pray out loud, use this time as an opportunity to bless, encourage, and lift up his or her needs. Do not use this prayer time to preach, instruct, or correct your spouse. If your spouse will not allow you to pray out loud, then find a time each day when you can pray silently.”
  • Emerson Eggerichs, Motivating Your Man God’s Way, p. 58
    "The call is for a wife to carry herself with dignity, showing honor to her husband because she is an honorable woman. Though her husband may not be respectable, God is calling her to show unconditional respect in her pursuit to obey God. She does this in obedience to the command of God in Ephesians 5:33, not because her husband deserves it."
  • Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect, p. 91
    “Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it is a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t 'feel respectful' is evidence of maturity, not hypocrisy.”
  • Stormie Omartian, The Power of a Praying Wife, p. 41
    “Let go of as many expectations as possible. The changes you try to make happen in your husband, or that your husband tries to make in himself to please you, are doomed to failure and will bring disappointment for you both. Instead, ask God to make any necessary changes ... Accept your husband the way he is and pray for him to grow ... Your greatest expectations must be from God, not from your husband.”
  • Lee and Leslie Strobel, Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch in Marriage, p. 97
    “If your partner wants you to participate in something unethical or illegal, or wants you to do something that violates your conscience or Christian commitment, then it’s appropriate to explain why you can’t participate. When this happens, don’t use an accusatory tone that demeans your spouse. Instead, talk about your own feelings and why participation would make you feel uncomfortable, scared, or violated.”
  • Nancy Kennedy, When He Doesn’t Believe, p. 82
    “Our thoughts determine our attitudes, which determine our actions. If I think my husband is a jerk, I’ll treat him like a jerk. But if I think about how he’s made in God’s image, then I’ll treat him differently.”
  • Shaunti Feldhahn, For Women Only, p. 35
    “Women hold an incredible power in the way we communicate with our men (both husbands and sons) to build them up or to tear them down, to encourage or to exasperate.”
  • Nancy Leigh DeMoss, Lies Women Believe and the Truth that Sets Them Free, p. 141
    “Many Christian wives do not realize that they have two powerful ‘weapons’ available to them that are far more effective than nagging, whining, or preaching. The first weapon is a godly life, which God often uses in a man’s life to create conviction and spiritual hunger (1 Peter 3:1‐4) … and the second is prayer.”
  • Nancy Leigh DeMoss, Lies Women Believe and the Truth That Sets Them Free, p. 140
    "When a wife is preoccupied with trying to correct her husband’s faults and flaws, she is taking responsibility God never intended her to have, and she will likely end up frustrated and resentful toward her husband and perhaps even toward God. She may also limit God from doing what He wants to do in changing her husband.”
  • Nancy Leigh DeMoss, Lies Women Believe and the Truth That Sets Them Free, p. 86
    “There is no man on the face of this earth who can satisfy the deepest longings of a woman’s heart‐‐God has made us in such a way that we can never be truly satisfied with anything or anyone less than Himself (Psalm 16:11; 34:8‐10).”
  • You are not alone, many people are able to glorify God while married to an unbeliever.
  • Consider inviting your spouse to attend a FamilyLife Weekend to Remember marriage getaway.  The principles presented are helpful for any marriage since they are practical as well as biblical.
  • Pray daily for your spouse’s salvation and for your marriage.  Do not give up or lose heart in doing good.
  • You cannot control or change your spouse; only God can change a person’s heart.  Pray for the kindness of God to lead your spouse to repentance.
  • Read this online article 10 Ideas:  Prayers for an Unbelieving Spouse and begin implementing some of these prayers.
  • Living your life for God will bring the greatest fulfillment in your marriage regardless of the position of your spouse.  Pray every day to be filled with the fruit of the Spirit.
  • Ask God to reveal any areas of sinful behavior or attitude where you need to repent and seek forgiveness.
  • Rather than nagging, whining or preaching, try praying for God to create conviction and spiritual hunger in your spouse. There is a God-shaped hole in all of us.
  • Be forgiving and gracious (unmerited favor) toward your spouse.
  • Be assured that God will use the challenges you are facing in marriage as part of His process of conforming you and your spouse to the image of Christ.
  • Be sure you are not blaming every issue on spiritual mismatch… some conflicts are normal in any marriage.  And many differences can be attributed to gender differences, not necessarily spiritual differences.  (Link coming soon)
  • Always base your decisions on Scripture, but never “browbeat” your spouse with the Bible.  Implement spiritual principles into your life in a respectful and quiet manner.
  • Guard your heart from emotional connections with the opposite sex.  Be especially careful around someone you admire for their spiritual leadership or maturity.
  • Think kind thoughts about your spouse.
  • Use opportunities to build up your spouse rather than tear them own. Encourage rather than exasperate.
  • Be sure you are involved in a local, bible‐believing church for spiritual growth and accountability.   A Bible study with others of the same sex may be very helpful.