Are you in danger right now? Do you have a plan in place to be safe? Do you need to go to a temporary shelter in your area?
Do you have children? Are they safe? Do they feel safe?
Have you contacted local authorities for help? Are you afraid to reach out for help with this situation?
Is your spouse jealous of your friends, co-workers, even family because he wants to have you “all to himself?” Does it feel like he is trying to keep you isolated?
Do you ever make excuses for the abuse or feel responsible for making this abusive person look good to friends and family?
Is your spouse a completely different person in public? How would you describe the differences?
Have you confronted the abuse? How did he/she respond?
After your spouse expresses sorrow, does the change last or does the cycle of violence begin again?
Does your spouse threaten you with violence, entrapment or with losing your children in order to control you?
Do you have extended family or a local church who can help?
How can I be in prayer for you right now?
Are you or your children currently in physical danger? If so, where can you find temporary refuge... family, church, friends?
Do you feel trapped and helpless? Be assured that God sees you and that His love for you is beyond measure.
Does your spouse keep tight control over your friendships, work relationships, and others?
Have you seen a progression in your spouse’s behavior moving from controlling behavior to physical actions?
Is your spouse jealous of how and where you spend your time?
Has your spouse destroyed personal property in anger?
Do you find yourself making excuses for your spouse’s behavior?
Are there times when you tell yourself that your spouse’s abusive behavior is really your fault?
Do you find yourself going to great lengths to keep your spouse’s anger from escalating?
Does he use cruel humor or insults to belittle you in public?
After he expresses sorrow, does he show lasting change, or does the cycle begin again?
