If you are being physically abused, you need someone to help you put together a plan of action.
If your children are in danger, you have a responsibility to get you and them to a safe place.
Even if you feel out of place or somewhat intimidated or embarrassed, be sure to stay involved in a local, Bible-believing church. This can be a good place for community as well as accountability and encouragement.
Biblical submission has nothing to do with immorality or abuse. God does not ask us to submit to sin.
Be realistic about ways your spouse may use deception to control the relationship. Pray for God to open your eyes to see truth. Sometimes love must risk peace for the sake of truth.
It is helpful to understand that violence usually occurs in a cycle that moves from controlling behavior to increased tension to anger to violence to remorse and promises to change, followed by more control and abuse.
Consider seeking the help of a professional Christian counselor who can also help you understand your legal rights.
The abuser may need outside help to become aware of their misperception of male/female relationships.
The goal is true reconciliation, understanding that biblical reconciliation is not just being together physically but includes repentance, forgiveness, accountability, and lasting change.
While you cannot single-handedly bring healing to your marriage, think about how you can begin to get healthier and invite your spouse into healthy change together.
If you feel like you are being controlled, establish some healthy boundaries and to learn constructive ways to express yourself.
Be patient. Change takes a lot of time, but it can happen.
Luke 18:27 reminds us that things that seem impossible to us are possible with God. Pray and talk to God about the seemingly impossible situation in your life right now.
You cannot control or change your spouse; only God can change a person’s heart. Pray for the kindness of God to lead your spouse to repentance There may be ways you are allowing your spouse to control you without being accountable. Pray for God to reveal those areas to you and show you how to handle them.
