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  • You need time alone to grieve your loss, but when you feel yourself isolating from the body of believers God has placed around you, reach out to someone who can be a good listener or an encourager.
  • Memorize one of the Hope Scriptures for Grief and Loss.
  • Think about times where God has been faithful to you and renewed you despite your lack of faith.  Write them in a journal entry or talk about them with a good friend.
  • Honestly pour your heart out to God in prayer every day.
  • Don’t be disappointed or take it personally if your friends and family don’t know what to say, or even if they say the wrong things. Rick Taylor, When Life is Changed Forever, p. 48
  • Let close friends and church family know of specific ways they can pray for you or meaningful ways they can minister to you.
  • If this loss was not your spouse, be sure to make your marriage a priority.  Don’t neglect the very person God may use to comfort you in this time of loss.
  • Journal your thoughts and prayers.  Not only is that a great way of processing what is going on, but it will also allow you to look back and see God’s healing and grace.
  • Consider a support group like GriefShare.
  • Be willing to seek the help of your pastor or other church leadership
  • Remember that your peace rests on the presence, power and character of God, not in your ability to figure it all out.
  • Acknowledge how you are feeling today. Your emotions are okay, a part of the process, and good for you to feel.  It’s better than feeling numb.
  • If you are angry at God, tell him that.  Journal about it.  Read how David did that in the Psalms.
  • Try to do one thing today that would help other loved ones (spouse, children) process through their grief.
  • List the things you can thank God for as it relates to the person you have lost.