“If you embrace and love the in‐laws as your own family, we can almost guarantee that you will cultivate good relationships. When parents view marriage as the loss of a son or a daughter, it is a threatening experience. But if they view marriage as an opportunity to gain a son or daughter, to adopt a new person into their family, then it can be a plus. Do whatever you must to communicate to your in‐laws that in your mind they are family. Don’t treat them as outsiders, but treat them as your own kin.”