- Esteem the mentee for reaching out for help and encourage them to believe God is still at work in them
- Encourage the mentee to confront any regrets honestly and not to let those regrets paralyze or control them
- Encourage them with Scriptures of hope and help
- Encourage them to know that there can be great value in asking others for forgiveness and in seeking to reconcile
- Encourage them not to settle for isolation, but to do the hard work to move forward together in marriage
- Remind them that God has a plan and that He provides the power to make it happen
- Remind them that their spouse is not their enemy but can be an ally in this process of re-evaluation
- Encourage them to believe that God still has great things ahead and that there is still time to build a lasting legacy
- Encourage them to answer the midlife question “Who am I?” beginning with their relationship to God
- Encourage them not to make rash decisions around money or other important life decisions, but to patiently yield to God
- Encourage them to protect their marriage and not be naïve about extramarital temptations during this time.
- Encourage them to consider attending a FamilyLife Weekend to Remember marriage getaway together to rekindle and renew their love.
- Encourage them to ask God for new opportunities to love and serve others, and to look expectantly for those opportunities
- Encourage them to remain in community and not to isolate from others who care… spouse, trusted friends, pastor, etc.
- Encourage them to stay connected to a local, bible-believing church
