For those whose spouses are deployed:
  • Tell me about yourself and your marriage.  How long have you been married and (on a scale from 1-10, 10 being AWESOME) how would you describe your relationship?
  • Is this a first marriage for you both? Number and ages of your children?
  • How long has your spouse been deployed? If he/she is deployed, how much longer will he/she be away from home?
  • If you could pick one issue that you most want resolved in your marriage, what would it be? How would your spouse answer that question?
  • How well are you able to communicate about the deeper issues of life and marriage?  How is that different from communication before deployment?
  • Are you able to get together with others whose spouses are deployed? What level and frequency of support do you have with spouses who are in similar situations?
  • How connected are you to a church family in terms of worship, activities and service opportunities?
  • Who do you have a Christian friend (same sex) to talk to and share with, someone who can encourage and support you? How often do you get together?
  • What do you do with your free time?
  • How often do you share with God the concerns you have for yourself and your family?

For those whose spouses have extended duty:
  • When did your spouse begin extended duty and what difference has that change made in your marriage and family?
  • How would you characterize your marriage in general?  Is it strong, on shaky ground or somewhere in-between?
  • How do you think your spouse views your marriage?
  • To what degree does your spouse know how you feel?  How open have you been with your spouse about this particular issue?  What has been the outcome of those conversations?
  • How connected are you to a local church family? Describe your frequency of attendance for worship, Bible studies, activities and any service on your part.
  • Think about your three closest friends (couples). How free are you to share details of issues that you are facing in your life with any of them? Who do you know that you can go to with anything that concerns you?
  • When you spend time as a couple, what kinds of activities do you enjoy together?  What are things you have in common?
  • If you were spending quality time alone as a couple, what does that look like to each of you?  What would you do?  Are you in agreement?