• Robert Lewis, Raising a Modern‐Day Knight, p. 69
    “Every young man needs a comprehensive view of life that begins with this fundamental proposition: True satisfaction in life is directly proportionate to one’s obedience to God. In this context, moral boundaries take on a whole new perspective: They become benefits, not burdens.”
  • Dan Allender, How Children Raise Parents, p. 26
    “Our children hunger to know that they are loved unconditionally, through failure and success, no matter what they say or do. And, while few would ever admit it, they are dying to experience the security and comfort that come with appropriate boundaries.”
  • Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Growing a Spiritually Strong Family, p. 32
    “When we model qualities of our Father in heaven by allowing the love of Jesus Christ to flow through us and into our children, we’re succeeding as parents. We do not propose a complicated, deeply theological set of practices to make this happen. Our advice is simple and summarized by three ‘T’s: time, touch, and talk.”
  • Tim Kimmel, The High Cost of High Control, p. 172
    “We need to let our children know they can come to us at any time about anything. After the first few times that they come to us and hear us assume responsibility and apologize for our actions against them, they’ll know they can trust us with their emotions.”
  • Tim Kimmel, Grace‐Based Parenting, p. 83
    “There is a cause and effect between encouragement and confidence. Kids who hear well‐timed and well‐placed affirmation from their parents are more easily convinced of the truth the Bible says about their intrinsic worth.”
  • Robert Lewis, Raising a Modern‐Day Knight, p. 161
    “Good fathers exhort and encourage and implore their sons; great fathers drive home these messages with their own spiritual, moral, and social integrity … In a thousand different ways, a son absorbs his father’s values by witnessing actions, behaviors, and attitudes. The real legacy we leave in our sons’ lives is what we have lived out before them.”
  • Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Growing a Spiritually Strong Family, p. 35
    “As you parent you must never back off from giving affection. When your sons and daughters are teenagers, it may feel awkward—but don’t stop. They still need your loving touch.”
  • Stephen Arterburn and Sam Gallucci, Road Warrior, p. 52
    “You might have heard the old adage: it’s not quantity time that matters; it’s quality time. But really, that’s a partial truth. It is quality time that matters, but quality time can only happen when plenty of quantity time is available.”
  • Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Growing a Spiritually Strong Family, p. 33
    “We have yet to meet a child (or an adult, for that matter) who feels deeply loved when he is given only occasional bursts of ‘quality time.’”
  • Robert Lewis, The New Eve, p. 106
    “I cannot stress enough how important it is for you as a parent to both recognize and honor who your child is and what gifts and abilities he or she possesses. Don’t overlook or play down talents that seem odd or undesirable to you. Play up your child’s gifts!”
  • Dan Doriani, The Life of a God‐Made Man, p. 84
    “If we view fatherhood as a series of problems and solutions, we miss the first and most important principle: successful parenthood depends on who you are more than on the techniques you know.”
  • Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man, p. 52
    “The tragedy is that so many men have left [discipline] to their children’s mothers. Not only is this unfair to the mother, but it robs the child of the security and self‐esteem which come from being disciplined by the father.”
  • Robert Lewis, Raising a Modern‐Day Knight, p. 10
    “Typically what passes for masculine training in most homes is vague and hit‐or‐miss. We assume sons will somehow ‘get it.’ But most don’t.”
  • Robert Lewis, Raising a Modern‐Day Knight, p. 58
    “Biblical manhood was never intended to be burdensome. Instead, real manhood was designed by God to be liberating and a means of great reward.”
  • Crawford Loritts, Never Walk Away, p. 26
    “I believe the greatest relational longing that a man has is the need for a heart connection with his father. When that connection is gone—whether it has been severed or was never established—it launches him into a passionate search for the love, approval, and affirmation of a dad.”
  • Robert Lewis, Raising a Modern‐Day Knight, p. 151
    “If you are serious about moving your son to manhood, begin asking the Lord to lead you to a small community of men. Seek out a group of fathers with sons who will band together with you in the adventure.”
  • Robert Lewis, Raising a Modern‐Day Knight, p. 76
    “Life is more than a job. Sons need to hear this from a dad. They need to see this in his life. Nothing satisfies the human heart as fully as service for the kingdom—in one’s area of giftedness.”
  • Robert Lewis, Raising a Modern‐Day Knight, p. 72
    “We often view spiritual training as an event. God expands it to include a lifestyle! The father who has committed himself to these ideals and has placed them upon his own heart is continually looking for opportunities to teach them to his son.”
  • Robert Lewis, Raising a Modern‐Day Knight, p. 61
    “Settle upon a manhood definition that you and your son can pursue together. You cannot call your son to a vision you cannot define. And remember, the deeper your commitment to personally pursue this vision yourself is, the better for your son. It must be real to you in order to be real to him.”
  • Esteem them for reaching out to a mentor in the area of parenting sons
  • Encourage your mentee to get involved in a local, Bible‐believing church for spiritual growth and accountability
  • Encourage them to consider forming a parenting HomeBuilders bible study group
  • Encourage moms to connect with other moms at MomLife Today
  • Encourage dads to consider connecting with other men in a Men’s Fraternity group
  • Encourage them to say “I love you” as often as their son can stand it
  • Encourage dads to do projects with their sons, like washing the car (and his bike), painting a fence, etc.
  • Encourage them to invite God into conversations with their son(s) through prayer every day
  • Encourage dads to include their sons in recreational activities; do “guy stuff” together to reinforce masculinity
  • Encourage them to model obedience and humility by admitting their own mistakes in parenting
  • Remind them that the relationship they have with their son(s) is more important than any list of rules
  • Remind them that it is important to develop a vision and strategy for the kind of people you want your son to become
  • Encourage them (along with their spouse) to develop a parenting mission statement to guide parenting decisions
  • Encourage them to be responsible for the spiritual/moral development of their sons and not leave it up to the church
  • Remind dads that it is important to model the type of Christian man you would like your son to become (“imitate me”)
  • Remind moms that it is important to model what a godly Christian woman/wife looks like
  • Encourage them to look to God’s Word for principles to address the son’s behaviors and decisions
  • Remind them that perhaps the most important thing they can do for their son in the home is to love their own spouse