Fear of repeating past mistakes can be a paralyzing feeling. Are you ever afraid that your past will repeat itself? That past mistakes will reappear?
Do you experience any guilt over your previous marriage? Guilt is another powerful factor and can come because of unfulfilled expectations, how your children’s lives have been disrupted, broken commitments you’ve made, etc.
Is there any residue of anger that spills out into your relationships? Anger is also a frequent companion in remarriage. Anger can be about the past or the present. Sometimes anger takes on the form of resentment or bitterness.
During your divorce, how did the other significant people in your life respond? Would you want to discuss how those positive or negative attitudes affected you or still affect you?
Would you consider sharing with me the steps you’ve taken in the process of forgiving your previous spouse? What steps have you taken in seeking forgiveness and how did your former spouse respond?
What steps have you taken to restore your former married relationship to the level of healthy friendship, especially for the benefit of any children involved? How has your former spouse responded to those efforts?
