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- How did you find out about your spouse’s pornography use?
- How long has this been a problem?
- How are you dealing with the strong emotions you must be feeling since finding out about your spouse’s pornography use?
- What do you believe are the next steps in the process of healing and reconciliation?
- Have you openly expressed your hurts and disappointment with your spouse?
- Have you ever fully experienced for yourself the forgiveness that God offers through Jesus Christ?
- Are you willing to consider how your spouse might need the grace of God and your forgiveness as you move forward?
- Are you willing to find someone of the same gender who can offer support and encouragement to you?
- Has your spouse found someone to be accountable to?
- Are you willing to stand beside your spouse as God changes them, even if that change takes place gradually over time?
- What are some safeguards you can set up with your spouse?
- How can I as your mentor help and encourage you right now?
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- Are you committed to your spouse and to seeing God restore your marriage, even if it will be a painful process?
- What can you do today to strengthen your own commitment to the marriage despite the process it will take to change patterns and to rebuild trust?
- What if God chooses to bring your spouse out of sexual sin gradually rather than immediately?
- Have you and your spouse had conversations about how the pornography has been affecting your sexual intimacy and/or expectations of one another?
- Has your spouse sought forgivness? Have you granted it or are you choosing to withhold and punish?
- Do you believe that your spouse is committed to finding lasting change and rebuilding trust?
- Is there anything you need to eliminate from your own life to avoid giving your spouse any excuse to continue to move away from marital oneness?
- How did you find out? How have you reacted to the revelation?
- What for you has been the most difficult part of this experience?
- How can you help set up internet safeguards for your spouse without necessarily trying to be the one to hold him/her accountable all the time?
- What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that
