Remind them that immediate “deliverance” from sexual temptation may not occur for their spouse in this area, and that for most people recovering from habitual sexual sin will be a deliberate process
Encourage your mentee to get involved in a local, Bible-believing church for spiritual growth and accountability
Esteem the mentee for reaching out for encouragement regarding this delicate issue.
Encourage the mentee to read one or more of the resource articles and discuss it with you.
Encourage the mentee with scriptures of help and hope
Assure the mentee that you care about him/her and plan to be there along the way to a solution
Remind the mentee that God did not wait for us to stop sinning before he loved us… He is our model for love
Encourage your mentee that his/her spouse does not need to be perfect to receive love and rebuild trust
Encourage the mentee to reach out for help by finding one or two other friends to meet with regularly for accountability
Encourage your mentee that there is everything right with being angry about this sin… we should be angry about sin
Encourage your mentee to be more concerned with his/her spouse encountering God than with fixing a problem
Encourage your mentee to remember that he/she too is the beneficiary of God’s grace and forgiveness
Encourage your mentee not to give up on the marriage but to keep believing that God truly can bring about change
Encourage your mentee to read resources for personal healing and growth
