Esteem your mentee for reaching out to a mentor right now and encourage them to let God search their heart.
Encourage your mentee to get involved in a local, Bible-believing church for spiritual growth and accountability.
Remind your mentee that forgiveness is neither a feeling, nor forgetting, nor excusing. (Ken Sande, The Peacemaker p. 187)
Remind your mentee that God is not through with him/her yet. (Philippians 1:6)
Encourage your mentee that he who is forgiven much is able to love much. (Luke 7:36-50)
Encourage the mentee to use this struggle as motivation to teach the next generation to follow God. (Luke 7:36-50)
Encourage the mentee that she is not alone if she has had an abortion. “40 percent of women of childbearing age in this country have experienced an abortion.” (Bob Lepine, “The Invisible Bond: Sliding Toward Shame“ FLT broadcast)
Encourage your mentee to believe there is a better day ahead and that God does not intend for them to go through life being continually burdened by guilt over past sexual sin.
Encourage your mentee to be completely honest, to confess specific sins to God, and then to believe in His forgiveness.
Encourage your mentee to have frank and honest discussion about this area with their spouse.
Talk about the limits you and your spouse have put on pornography and how you feel those are working.
Discuss how each of you defines pornography. Talk about ways you define it differently.
Talk with your spouse about what helps you to get in the mood for sex.
Ask your spouse how often they would like you to initiate sex.
Discuss with your partner the frequency of sex in your marriage and if you each feel this is satisfactory.
If there are any specific sexual acts that make you uncomfortable, discuss those with your spouse.
Try to think of one thing you could you do to make your sexual relationship more gratifying.
