How familiar are you with how men and women view romance differently? With this in mind, how are you looking for ways to meet your spouse’s unique needs?
In what ways are you considering your spouse’s needs above your own, or are your demands front and center? (Philippians 2:3‐4)
How do you and your spouse resolve conflicts without allowing bitterness or resentment to creep in? Is anything unresolved over past grievances?
How could your spouse take one small step in the right direction? Have you asked God for wisdom in how and when to express this to your spouse?
What is your plan to combat busyness, isolation, or stress in your home? What can you do today to start dealing with these “little foxes ruining the vineyard,” i.e. things that come between you? (Song of Solomon 2:15)
Do you pray together and ask God to be at the center of your marriage? Is He your “first love?” (Revelation 2:4‐5)
How would you rate you and your spouse in terms of non-sexual physical closeness (e.g. holding hands, snuggling, hugging)? How has that contributed to or taken away from your overall feelings of sexual intimacy?
Do you go to bed at the same time at night? Do you go to bed early enough to talk and listen and laugh together?
Is your bedroom a sanctuary or is it full of distractions, such as television, computer, kids’ toys, or clutter? What would you and your spouse think about removing those distractions together? How would that be helpful to you?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?
