“Romance and resentment cannot exist in the same heart. Resentment will extinguish the embers of romance. That’s why forgiveness is such as essential discipline in marriage. Forgiveness says, ‘By forgiving you, I give up all my rights to punish you for how you’ve hurt me. I no longer hold it against you, expecting you to pay for your transgressions.’ When you forgive you spouse, you choose to relinquish your rights to hold it against her.”