What kinds of things get in the way of sexual intimacy in your marriage? Are you looking for creative ways to change those?
Have you and your spouse discussed your desires and expectations in the area of sexual intimacy? What did those discussions look like? Were they productive?
What priority do you put on sex? How does your spouse differ?
Have you ever sought help in this area? From what source(s)?
Are you familiar with the physical and emotional gender differences involved in sex? How have those affected you?
Where have you turned in your life to learn about sexual intimacy? Did your parents offer any instruction? Were they affectionate with each other?
Have you ever read any books about sex in marriage? What did you learn? Did you discuss this material with your spouse?
Have you considered what the Bible has to say about sex?
Have you made your bedroom a place that is conducive to romance and sex for both of you? How do you think the mood would change if you eliminated the clutter or distractions?
Are you and your spouse affectionate with one another in other non‐sexual ways? Do you hold hands, kiss, hug, snuggle, etc.?
What’s one thing that I as your mentor can do to encourage you and help you in this area of your marriage?
What does “affection” look like to you?
What was affection like in your family growing up (verbal and non-verbal)?
What would you like to be different in the way your family (or your spouse) shows affection?
How did your father and mother show affection differently?
On a scale of 1-10, how much affection do you feel like you have in your marriage right now? What would you like it to be if you could patiently and gently affect
change?
Have you and your spouse discussed your sexual past with one another? When did you do that? Do you feel that each of you were fully honest in that disclosure?
