Are you able to communicate openly with your spouse about this area of your married life? What do those conversations look like?
Have openly discussed sexual expectations with your spouse?
Have you sought the help of a Christian counselor or caring pastor?
Is your spouse on any medication, such as medication for blood pressure, antidepressant, etc., that could be affecting sex drive?
If you have children, how are they affecting your ability to build intimacy and closeness in your marriage?
How are you and your spouse investing in the non-sexual romance of your marriage?
Was there a particular time when your spouse appeared to begin losing interest in the sexual area of your marriage? What were the circumstances surrounding that time?
Are you or your spouse under an uncommon amount of stress? Do you see any way to begin getting out from under that stress?
Do you and your spouse pray together every day?
How can I as your mentor help and encourage you right now?
What does “affection” look like to you?
What was affection like in your family growing up (verbal and non-verbal)?
What would you like to be different in the way your family (or your spouse) shows affection?
How did your father and mother show affection differently?
On a scale of 1-10, how much affection do you feel like you have in your marriage right now? What would you like it to be if you could patiently and gently affect
change?
Have you and your spouse discussed your sexual past with one another? When did you do that? Do you feel that each of you were fully honest in that disclosure?
