Encourage them to choose a good Christian resource on sexual intimacy in marriage and to read it with their spouse
Encourage them to realize that neglecting marital sex puts the relationship at risk—in other words, it’s worth the time!
Make a “wish list” of 3 things you desire in your relationship with your spouse.
Take turns sharing your “I wish” statements with your partner and describe how
you would feel if your wish came true.
Talk to your spouse about what affection was like in your family growing up (verbal and non-verbal).
Think about how your father and mother may have shown affection differently.
Discuss ways your family could express more affection for one another.
On a scale of 1-10, rate how much affection you feel you have in your marriage right now. Talk about what you would like it to be if you and your spouse could agree on how to gently and patiently bring about change.
Consider discussing your sexual past with your spouse in a way that is open and honest.
Talk with your spouse about what helps you to get in the mood for sex.
Ask your spouse how often they would like you to initiate sex.
Discuss with your partner the frequency of sex in your marriage and if you each feel this is satisfactory.
If there are any specific sexual acts that make you uncomfortable, discuss those with your spouse.
Try to think of one thing you could you do to make your sexual relationship more gratifying.