Can we take a look at how God’s word defines sexual purity?
Are you comfortable discussing the area of sexual purity and seeking God’s wisdom together in that area?
Do you have past or current behaviors that make you feel guilty or embarrassed? Can we talk about how God wants you to get a fresh start in those areas and has provided a way to do that?
Do you know how to have God’s power for victory in this area?
Are you aware of how sexual purity (or lack of it) affects future relationships… especially a marriage?
Do you ever decide to live differently, but experience defeat? What have you done in response to this ongoing struggle?
What safeguards have you put into place to protect you from temptation in this area?
What might be one small step you could take today to move toward complete sexually purity as God has designed it?
Are you aware of how God’s standards around sex are for your joy and not as a way to punish you or rob you of fulfillment now?
How can I as your mentor help encourage you right now?
What does “affection” look like to you?
What was affection like in your family growing up (verbal and non-verbal)?
What would you like to be different in the way your family (or your spouse) shows affection?
How did your father and mother show affection differently?
On a scale of 1-10, how much affection do you feel like you have in your marriage right now? What would you like it to be if you could patiently and gently affect
change?
Have you and your spouse discussed your sexual past with one another? When did you do that? Do you feel that each of you were fully honest in that disclosure?
Which of the following have you heard/said?
- “If you really love me, you will let me…”
- “Everyone’s doing it”
- “We’re going to get married anyway”
Which approach would you say is more wise in the area of sexual purity: avoiding difficult situations altogether or making on-the-spot choices to remain pure? Which approach do you take?
What boundaries have you set to avoid temptation?
Name one good friend who could hold you accountable for sexual purity?
If you have past mistakes, what steps have you taken to seek forgiveness and a new start?
Do you share values in the area of sexual purity with the person you’re dating, or is one person pressuring the other?
How have you ever surrendered this area of your life to God and committed to obeying His commands?
