Have you ended the extramarital affair? If not yet, why not?
Have you ended all contact with the person – phone calls, text messages, social networking, emails, as well as meeting together? If not what kind of contact have you continued to have and what does this continued connection mean?
Does your spouse know about your affair? If so, did your spouse find you out first or did you confess first?
Have you confessed everything to your spouse or are you holding back information?
How is your spouse reacting to the news of your affair?
If your spouse does not yet know about your adultery, what has kept you from confessing? What do you think needs to happen before you are ready to make this confession?
What is your hope for your marriage now and in the future?
What were you looking for in this relationship that was missing in your relationship with your spouse?
What do you believe you could have done to prevent the affair? Have you and your spouse discussed what could have been done differently?
Do you have a picture in mind of what full reconciliation with your spouse will look like, how long it will take to rebuild trust?
