Esteem your mentee for coming to you admitting their sin and seeking help
Encourage your mentee to get involved in a local, bible‐believing church for spiritual growth and accountability
Encourage them with Scriptures of hope and help, with God’s forgiveness and God’s plan
Let them know that while not every marriage that experiences adultery survives, many do. If appropriate, encourage them with examples you are personally aware of where a marriage has been restored.
Let them know that restoration of a marriage following an adulterous relationship is hard work, but there are steps they can take to move in that direction
Let them know that it is normal for the offended spouse to take a very long time to heal, so to be patient as this process may take much longer than they are anticipating
Assure them that you care about them and plan to be with them to find solutions together
Encourage them to be completely open with their spouse regarding their schedule, who they meet with, where they go, who they email or text, etc. They will need to prove themselves trustworthy over time.
