How did you first meet this other person? Were you ever close to them in the past before you were married?
How has this other relationship progressed from that initial friendship? Where did you start and where are you now?
Have strong feelings for this person surfaced (or resurfaced) and how have you been handling those feelings?
Do you ever hide this relationship from your spouse?
Do you talk to this person about problems with your spouse?
Do you confide things to this person about your marriage that would make your spouse feel uncomfortable?
Do you and this other person exchange flirtatious humor?
Do you think about this person when you’re with your spouse?
Can you tell me a little about your marriage and how you’re building into that?
Have you considered how having an emotional connection with the opposite sex puts your marriage at risk?
What does this other friendship reveal about your marriage and areas where God needs to work there?
Do I have your permission to be completely honest about areas of concern, even if I won’t always express those things perfectly?
Can you tell me a little more about your relationship with God?
What does “affection” look like to you?
What was affection like in your family growing up (verbal and non-verbal)?
What would you like to be different in the way your family (or your spouse) shows affection?
How did your father and mother show affection differently?
On a scale of 1-10, how much affection do you feel like you have in your marriage right now? What would you like it to be if you could patiently and gently affect
change?
Have you and your spouse discussed your sexual past with one another? When did you do that? Do you feel that each of you were fully honest in that disclosure?
