Are you aware that many people who commit adultery express surprise that it happened? What does that say about the danger of emotional attachments outside of marriage?
Are you open to talking about setting healthy boundaries to protect your marriage?
Do you ever tell yourself, “We’re just good friends,” but secretly long for something more?
Honestly, do you wish you could walk away from your marriage and spend more time with this other person?
Jesus said that adultery is really a matter of an unfaithful heart. How do you feel about that?
What were you looking for in this relationship that was missing in your relationship with your spouse?
If your spouse does not yet know about this other person, what has kept you from confessing? What do you think needs to happen before you are ready to make this confession? What steps can you take to rebuild trust with your spouse?
Do you consider this an emotional affair? Would your spouse consider it an emotional affair?
How important is it to you what the Bible says about faithfulness in marriage? Can we take a look at that together?
If you have to break off this emotional connection to start rebuilding your marriage relationship, are you willing to do that?
Do you ever pray with your spouse? Would you be willing to start, even it’s just for a moment or two each day?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?