“Rather than running to the Ultimate Healer for relief from our emotional wounds, women often make idols of relationships—worshipping a man instead of God … If we continue this pattern of looking for love in all the wrong places, we may find that our affairs have progressed into full‐blown addictions.”

"Contentment arises from a spirit of gratefulness and thankfulness. It is a courageous choice to thank God for what you have and for what you don't have."

“While it is normal and healthy to have fantasies, they need to be restricted to your marriage partner … fantasizing about anyone else is mental and emotional unfaithfulness to your husband.”

“While it is true that marriage can be a shield against loneliness, it can also become a weapon that provokes the greatest loneliness in life.”

“God created women with a need to feel emotionally connected. Be warned: When there’s a wall of loneliness in your marriage, don’t be surprised when everywhere you turn you find godly, caring men who seem to be heaven‐sent to meet those needs and ease your spiritual loneliness. Guard your heart.”

"The kind of communication to guard against with someone of the opposite sex who isn’t your spouse: 'Flirting and complimenting; complaining and confessing; inappropriate counseling and praying.'"

“The desire to keep options open destroys marital stability. People need a security that unlimited choosing annuls. We must do more than make loving decisions. We must make commitments and stick with them in ways that cut off other decisions.”

“Temptation has a beginning (the initial enticement) and end (death), and several steps in between. As seen in James 1:14‐15, each step builds upon the previous step, producing a deadly downward spiral.”

“An extramarital affair is an escape from reality or a search for fulfillment outside of marriage.”

“Give your friends permission to ask you hard questions about anything. And offer information to them as well. We must learn to bring into the light the private conversations, fleeting thoughts, personal struggles, and personal interactions that occur while traveling for work. Once something is discussed and brought into the light, it loses its power to control you.”

“If, because you aren’t happy in your marriage, you daydream about who you might marry should your husband die, be warned. You are likely to encounter the same disappointments and problems if you remarry … If you cannot conquer pride, feelings of rejection, lust, selfishness, and laziness in this relationship and communicate your needs in such a way that inspires your husband to fill your emotional bank account, you can be sure that a different man isn’t the remedy.”

“The secret to ultimate emotional satisfaction is to pursue a mad, passionate love relationship with the One who made our hearts, the One who purifies our hearts, and the One who strengthens our hearts against worldly temptations. The secret is to focus your heart on your First Love.”

“When women compare their husbands with other men, they are toying with a threat similar to the threat a man plays with when visually lusting after other women. Whether the comparison is physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual, we not only show disrespect for our husband’s uniqueness, but also undermine our marriage and our emotional integrity.”

"Tell your spouse about the person (you are emotionally attracted to), but use your own judgment as to how fully to explain your dilemma. I have a friend who seems to delight in telling his wife about all the women upon whom he develops such instant and fleeting crushes. He encourages her to do the same, but while she admits she is susceptible to similar experiences, she prefers not to talk about them or to hear about his."

“We do not accidentally fall in love or into sexual immorality. We either dive in that direction (either passively or aggressively), or we intentionally choose to turn the other way, refusing to cross the line between that which is fruitful and that which is forbidden.”

“Emotional adultery is unfaithfulness of the heart. It starts when two people of the opposite sex begin talking with each other about intimate struggles, doubts, or feelings. They start sharing their souls in a way that God intended exclusively for the marriage relationship. Emotional adultery is friendship with the opposite sex that goes too far.”

"Faithfulness to our vows is more than the absence of an affair or the absence of a divorce document. Faithfulness is the presence of love, devotion, honor, loyalty, and encouragement. Faithfulness is positive and dynamic; it means we actively seek the welfare of our spouse."