Day 28: Fight Right
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. — James 1:19-20
If you’ve been married longer than 24 hours, you know that conflict is real. All couples argue and disagree. Be encouraged to know that conflict itself is not a threat to your marriage, but unresolved conflict is. Therefore, the ability to settle your conflicts in a biblical way will prove to be one of your most valuable assets. Treasure the peace of your love by avoiding conflict when possible; when it’s not, fight together for your marriage rather than against each other.
Many conflicts can be avoided, or at least minimized, by slowing down, listening, and really trying to understand what the other person is saying. At the very least, this approach keeps you on track, moving toward resolution rather than adding to the size of the disagreement. More importantly, showing this level of respect proves that you value your relationship more than winning an argument.
Praying together for our marriage
He prays: Ask God for the wisdom and grace to deal with every conflict in a way that strengthens your marriage and builds your love and trust.
She prays: Ask God to help you both to be “quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger” when you’d rather give in to anger and hurt.