31 Year Old Note to Self: Change Yourself

On our 31st wedding anniversary I wondered what I would say to my younger self about marriage. I realized I probably wasted 15 years thinking more about my wife's behavior than mine. But things got better for us when I looked in the mirror and measured myself by Christ's example of love. By focusing on me, I was able to change the only person I was able to change. When I did, it softly invited her to do the same and in changing ourselves we made far more progress than trying to change the other.