Brian Goins

Brian and his wife Jen love building into families and eating great food together. They have three children who all want to move to Montana. Brian serves as VP of Content Development at FamilyLife. He is also the executive producer on an adolescent-focused documentary series called Brain, Heart, World (brainheartworld.org) aimed at helping change the conversation about pornography in our country and has written Playing Hurt: A Guy’s Strategy for a Winning Marriage. 

Episodes appearing in

As crazy as it sounds, trust can be broken within a marriage and the husband not even realize it. Brian Goins, Shaunti Feldhahn, and Ann Wilson offer hope and wise counsel for couples needing to restore trust. View Show Notes →
Why does your wife ask deep questions just as you're falling to sleep at night? Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn reveal a simple truth about your wife and 3 steps you can take to navigate this late-night impasse. View Show Notes →
Husbands, do you get tired head in conversations with your wife as she circles the airport but never lands the plane? Understand the brain science behind these exchanges, and gain wisdom on why it's an easy win as a husband. View Show Notes →
Your wife can't really be attracted to your "dad bod" right? Shaunti Feldhahn explains why a simple trip to the doctor is probably way more attractive to her than another tip to the gym. View Show Notes →
In episode 2.1 you heard the top 5 "rookie mistakes" of husbands who want more sex with their wives. Now learn from host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn your top 5 "all-star moves." You got this! View Show Notes →
Did you listen to episode 2 and think, "Just shoot straight on this and tell me your best tipes for getting more sex with my wife?" Here's a quick-hit list of the top 5 rookie mistakes you may be making -- Come on man! View Show Notes →
Virtually every husband wonders why sex with his wife feels more complex and frustrating than it should. Why can't she just focus on it more? Host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn, along with Dr. Juli Slattery, provide answers. View Show Notes →
Many wives struggle to believe that their own husbands can see them as beautiful. Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explain these feelings of inadequacy, and show how a husband can overcome them in love. View Show Notes →
You want him to listen but he glazes over or tries to "fix it," frustrating you and making things worse. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins explain two steps to changing this dynamic, plus a pro tip just for wives to help you be heard every time. View Show Notes →
When a husband doesn't deserve respect, should his wife show it anyway? Shaunti Feldhahn presents steps wives can take when their husbands shows little respectability. View Show Notes →
Do men secretly wish their wives looked like bikini models? The shocking results are in. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins discuss and offer wives practical guidance on overcoming their most common insecurities. View Show Notes →
Can you or your husband still have friends of the opposite sex? Yes, but with a few caveats (#itscomplicated). Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins offer calming wisdom on a lightning-rod topic. Learn how to guard your marriage without putting your head in the sand. View Show Notes →
Why would a husband choose video games over his wife? Isn't that juvenile and destructive for a marriage? Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins discuss this sensitive topic in search of win/win solutions for both husband and wife. View Show Notes →
Providing financially while also building family relationships is hard for many husbands to balance. Often it's the wife yearning for more closeness at home. Learn how to talk it through and together find the work/home balance you desire. View Show Notes →
Honey, the trash needs to go out, but please don't take it now because I like asking 12 times, said no wife ever! Then why is this so common? Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins explain what's really behind this and how to move a husband to action without nagging. View Show Notes →
Does your husband always try to carry the groceries in a single trip? You may be surprised when you learn why he does that. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins crack open the mystery and explain why he risks breaking all those eggs. View Show Notes →
When a husband doesn't deserve respect, should his wife show it anyway? Shaunti Feldhahn describes what many women have discovered by doing just that. This isn't a naive pep talk. It's a presentation of transformational steps wives can take when their husband shows little respectability. View Show Notes →
Do you and your husband butt heads over the kids? Are you the disciplinarian while he plays the fun parent? Shaunti Feldhahn gives three tips for dealing with parenting impasses, plus a secret to help your husband see your point of view. View Show Notes →
Porn is disgusting, fake, and destructive, right? So how could your husband be tempted by it? Shaunti Feldhahn explains, with brain science and biblical wisdom, that while never excusing the sin, you can play a compassionate role in helping him win the battle. View Show Notes →
Does your husband sulk or get angry over the weirdest things? Shaunti Feldhahn explains common mail triggers and what's underneath them. She also provides a "next day rule" that will help you avoid these conflicts altogether. View Show Notes →
Wives often think their husbands need sex for only physical reasons. Wrong. Shaunti Feldhahn reveals why having his wife's desire meets a deep emotional need for a husband that will strengthen the bond of marriage and bolster every other area of his life. View Show Notes →